Many people typically see events as a great chance to let their hair down and have themselves some fun with friends and strangers. However, there are some people who see the chance to attend events as a chore, and sometimes, something to stress themselves over. Their reasons for this might vary, from the fact that someone that they’re trying to avoid is attending, or simply because events aren’t something that they particularly like attending.
In most circumstances, there’s no problems with opting out of attending the event. However, if you keep up that attitude long enough, people may stop inviting you all together. For those who find it difficult to muster up an enthusiasm for attending events, here are some ways you can give yourself the push to attend more events.
For many people who dislike attending events, their reluctance stems from fear. This is usually a fear of rejection when trying to strike up a conversation, or a fear or being unable to interact properly with the people in attendance. Sometimes this is comes from a fear that they will be attending an event where they don’t know anybody. These are all legitimate fears and concerns to have when making the decision to attend an event.
These are all trigger responses to unfamiliar situations, and the best way to deal with these is to break these thoughts down and rationalize them. If you’re worried about attending an event and people might turn you down or you don’t know what to say, make sure you have something ready. Look for something in common that you can use as a conversation starter, or bring along something that might work as an ice breaker.
Don’t be too worried if the conversation hits a stalemate, you can simply exit the conversation and look for other people to talk to. This advice works fairly well for those who are worried about being rejected as well, the people who you were trying to talk to aren’t the only ones in the event, there are a lot of other people who are interested in what you have to say.
If you’re worried about not knowing anybody, allow yourself to be more open to new experiences. By having an outlook that shows that you’re interested in meeting new people, others will see that make the effort to try to know you. It’s all a matter of keeping an open mind.
Another way to give yourself the motivation to attend more events is by looking for the positive in attending, instead of all the horrible ways it can all go wrong. This is a great way to let yourself see the things that you might gain out of attending, instead of the things that you might lose when you choose to attend events.